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I think often about the role of husbands. Is he the “head” of the home and if so, what does that mean exactly?
I’ve heard some good Christian husbands describe it like this: Well, if my wife and I have a disagreement, I make the final decision.
Really? The role of the Christian husband is to be the tie-breaker?
That explanation falls short for me. There’s got to be so much more that God had in mind for husbands.
But when I try and apply headship in today’s egalitarian culture, it can be a little fuzzier. In a patriarchal society, where roles were clearer than they are today, the role of the husband seemed to stand out better.
But that the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is head of the church is a fact, not a command (Ephesians 5:23). Established in the beginning, headship is about essence of being, not merely role-playing.
The parallel is that when a woman becomes a mother, you don’t have to tell her to love her baby. She just does it. It’s instinctual. It is the same for men. When a man becomes a husband, he instinctively wants to provide for his new bride and make her happy. He wants to be her savior, and I don’t mean in the soul-saving way. It’s more about the wholeness and life a wife feels when she’s loved by her husband – he knows this and is driven to give it to her.
I can’t help but wonder if my friends who claim “tie-breaker” status, are afraid to say more about what they believe their role is. In this upside down world, where good is bad and bad is good, I wonder if some have given up trying to understand the depth of what it means to embrace their masculine leadership. That’s tragic, but my hope is that more men will dare to become who they were meant to be in the Lord.
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Most husband become more and more greedy and very selfish. They used womens’life like a toy.Most lady are chasing any man who possess big amount of money. So Both become money-oriented persons today’s upside down world.They don’t know about what truth love is,they became just creatures not human beings. They’re in Satan’s hands.They don’t have any value(love,loyalty,sympathy, etc..).
I THINK THE SOCIETY ON A WHOLE WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE IF MORE MEN ENDEAVOUR TO BECOME WHO THEY ARE IN THE LORD. BEING THE HEAD IS NOT MERELY A TITLE BUT IS ACTUALLY A POTENTIAL GOD INVESTED IN MAN. THIS ABILITY TO LEAD AND DIRECT, MAKE DECISIONS, LOVE, CARE AND PROTECT CAN ONLY BE ACTIVATED IN ITS TRUE FORM ( THE WAY GOD INTENDS IT TO BE) IF MAN IS WALKING IN THE PRECEPTS OF THE LORD. THE FACT THAT SOME MEN THESE DAYS HAVE NOT OR ARE NOT WILLING TO SEEK THE lORD AND SUBMIT THEIR LIVES TO HIM IS THE REASON WHY THE WHOLE FAMILY STRUCTURE IN TODAYS’ SOCIETY IS IN DIS-ARRAY.A REAL UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT “HEAD” MEANS CAN ONLY BE SEEN THROUGH A MAN WHO SEEKS AFTER GOD.
Before we were married my husband seemed to be attentive, caring and loving, for the most part. All of that changed three days after our wedding.
I still don’t understand it. I just don’t get how someone can so drastically change in a matter of days. I don’t understand how I did not see this side of him. I want to believe that he can still be that man, and that I am capable of being a good and loving wife. I’m losing that hope and I just want out. I know this can’t be what God intended but I don’t even care. I know that I fail him in many ways but I see it and I try. He does not believe that he has any faults and I don’t know how to work with that.