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Love is blind . . .
My bride of 35 years recently brought home a sign that she wants to hang in our soon-to-be-remodeled bathroom. [The soon-to-be-remodeled part being . . . as soon as I can get to it. And we all know how that goes. 
] Here’s the sign:
It makes me laugh. We do a lot of that around our house. But it’s more than funny. What hits me is the proverbial sounding wisdom that it whimsically communicates. If I didn’t know better, I’d swear that Solomon wrote it in the Proverbs. He didn’t. (I looked.) But he could have.
Why do we laugh? Because it’s only those of us who are married who have the insider information about how true those words are.
Think about it, those of you who are married. You know who you are. You laughed the loudest. Come on, be honest. Didn’t you? Why? It’s because when you were in that ooey-gooey, falling-in-love stage, there’s a lot you closed your eyes to with thoughts like: “Oh, we’ll work that out later.” We all did.
However, it’s after the post-honeymoon glow wears off and doing life together sets in that we begin to see each other more clearly—no tux, no wedding dress—just who we are in street clothes. Honestly, it feels vulnerable, over-our-heads naked with nowhere to hide. Excitement and terror all rolled into one.
That’s when, with eyes wide open, we catch our first glimpses of the exquisite design that God had in mind when He made one man for one woman (Gen. 2:18, 21-25). Though we live east of Eden, we are given the daily opportunity to make good on our wedding-day promises to “nourish and cherish” our spouse with all of our hearts until our last dying breath (Eph. 5:25-33).
Now for those of you who are in the falling in love stage of your relationship and you’re thinking, “I don’t get it.” Don’t worry. Give it time. You will.
Ooey-gooey love is great, for starters; but it won’t sustain you for the long haul kind of love that is required to go the distance. It’s the God-help-me-love-you-when-I-don’t-feel-like-it kind of love that is needed.
Love is blind–but, if we’re willing, God can and will use marriage to open our hearts to love our mates more deeply than we ever thought possible. Really. Get the picture?
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Thanks for the message,sir i want to ask is that true that love is blind?because bible said God is love,i need more explanation.
David, I was referring to our flawed human love. God’s love is never blind. He knows and sees all. Nothing surprises Him. The absolute wonder about God’s love for us is that He didn’t just hear about our sin. He witnesses it in person, knows us best and STILL loves us the most! Amazing love!
Mr. Jackson,
Thank you for such a lovely article.
I totally get it :•)
25yrs this June :•)
Sherry, congrats on your 25-year anniversary this June. I hope you and your man have a special time celebrating your journey of love together with Him. Sweet!
This is like the voice of an oracle. Thank you dear RBC
Tim,
I lost my husband of 33 years in Oct. Your article brought a smile as I remember our years together. Thank you for bringing that smile.
In Christ,
Sue
Hello Tim,
I am a starter who is yet to discover the true meaning of love thou trusting God for a life partner in a couple of years to come. She broke my heart about three times now and still, she wants me for a relationship. I am afraid she might break me one more time which I may not be able to bear but then, I still have this strong feelings for her. Right now I present my case to God in prayer immediately I read your post but then, I am afraid and uncertain of what to do. What measures should I take as an act of faith? Faith without works is death. James 2:17
Andrew, I’m saddened to hear of your struggles in the relationship with the young woman who has broken your heart 3 times. While I don’t know anything about the details of those situations, it certainly raises a red flag about any potential future in the relationship. There’s a consistent pattern of heartbreak for you that is not likely to change. Yes, it’s true that all relationships struggle. We all are pretty poor at loving at times. However, if a woman truly loves you, there would be a pattern of brokenness on her part over the pain that she’s caused you. The absence of that pattern indicates that there hasn’t been a true heart change on her part, making a deepening relationship that is moving toward the kind of sacrificial love necessary in a marriage impossible at this time. You would do well to back away from the relationship. Letting go of her will be painfully difficult because you’re emotionally invested. However, stepping into your fear with a faith that trusts in God’s good work in you will provide a level of reassurance that makes courage possible.
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